Tips to deal with the Terrible Twos and Terrible Threes
No parent looks forward to the terrible twos(or terrible threes), a development stage that normally starts somewhere in the toddler years.
Even though most parents are not expecting the terrible twos to start before their kid turns two, it is important take notion of the fact that it can start anytime during the kid’s second year or even the third year so that’s way you may have also heard of the term terrible threes. So anytime after your kid’s first birthday and sometimes unfortunately even before it.
It’s characterized by the fact that children are negative about mostly everything and are saying ‘no’ all the time, the terrible twos or threes can also lead to your child having frequent changes in their mood and temper tantrums.
Helping you deal with this difficult but normal stage in the development of your child, you must always keep in mind that your son or daughter isn’t trying to be defiant or rebellious on purpose. They are only trying to express their growing independence and don’t have the language skills to easily express their needs. This is possibly also the reason why your child will get frustrated at a frequent base and turns to hitting, biting, and temper tantrums when he doesn’t get what he wants.
By learning more about this normal stage in the development of your child, it can make it easier to get through it and make sure that you aren’t contributing to more battles than are necessary.
Some more tips to help your child during the terrible twos and terrible threes:
- Have a regular routine for their meals, naps, bedtime, and keep trying to stick to it every day
- Limit the choices, like ‘would you like a pear or a banana for your snack’ and not just ‘what do you want for your snack.’ This helps your child feel like he or she is making his or hers own decisions and has power over things, but he or she is not able to choose unacceptable alternatives.
- Set limits about things and don’t be surprised when your child will be trying to test the limits set by you to see what they can get away with
- Don’t give in to tantrums
- Start using time-outs and taking away privileges as discipline techniques.
- Make sure your kid is provided with a safe environment that’s properly childproofed for exploring and playing in. It is not really fair that your child will be getting in trouble for playing with something he isn’t supposed to if you kept it within reach.