Interview with the founder of Talking to Toddlers
Yesterday I had an appointment with Chris Thompson to talk about his successful method on how to deal with behavior problems in children. Chris talks with great enthusiasm about his new book and corresponding audio book, Talking To Toddlers, in which he marries his long-time love for hypnosis and speech language patterns with communication and applies them to talking to children.
How it all started:
After seeing a hypnotize performance by Mike Mandel in January Chris was astonished by the authenticity and an immediate curiosity about “How” and “Why” was triggered. From that day on Chris never missed another performance of Mandel when he was in town during his university days.
After getting his degree he started to work as a financial analyst, researcher and writer. But whenever he had a spare moment he tried to keep up pursuing his hobby of hypnosis and language patterns and became a Neuro-linguistic Programming (NLP) practitioner.
Chris always knew that when he grew up he wanted to have children and be a father. When he was younger he lived with his loving parents and two siblings. The roles his parents used where very traditional; His father was the breadwinner and his mother worked partly outdoors and took most of the care of the children on her.
He finds himself blessed to have both of his parents in his ‘day to day’ from an early stage. This way of growing up in a loving family was the base of his desire to have a family of his own. Chris married his long-time girlfriend and after a little while they got two daughters which were born just a few years apart.
Being a father comes natural for Chris. I can see his love and adoration for his girls when a big smile appears on his face when talking about them. His three women means the world to him, this is why he decided, after reading Tim Ferriss’s “The Four Hour Work Week”, to make a life changing decision what could make him be more physically present in their lives.
With full confidence and support of his wife he resigned his job in financial services and started making his book and audio-version downloads “Talking to toddlers”. And if we can rely on the reviews it is already a big success in Australia!
Talking To Toddlers is broken down into short segments with accompanying homework assignments. The modules walk parents through different techniques used to anticipate and diffuse tantrums as well as foster independence and responsibility. Consistency and Commitment is a chapter dedicated to endearing children and taking time to make them feel as a true part of the family. This philosophy could sound like something out of an Alyson Shafer book, which is no coincidence. Thompson admires Shafer as a great parenting expert.
The chapters that spoke to me the most are “Saying No” and “Think Outside The Box”, they challenged my thinking and made me take pause. Saying No incite parents to count how often they say “no” in a day and evaluate how many of those times it was for a life-and-death situation. I feel embarrassed to say that Thompson was bang-on when he called me out as being “lazy”. Since that moment, I have made a true effort of not saying “no” all of the time. I try to rephrase my sentences, I take more time to explain or I offer an alternative. The chapter “Think Outside The Box” premises finding creative alternatives, Thompson offers many (amusing) examples that are just as fun for the child as it is for you.
Terrible Twos and Terrible Threes
No parent looks forward to the terrible twos(or terrible threes), a development stage that normally starts somewhere in the toddler years.
Even though most parents are not expecting the terrible twos to start before their kid turns two, it is important take notion of the fact that it can start anytime during the kid’s second year or even the third year so that’s way you may have also heard of the term terrible threes. So anytime after your kid’s first birthday and sometimes unfortunately even before it.
It’s characterized by the fact that children are negative about mostly everything and are saying ‘no’ all the time, the terrible twos or threes can also lead to your child having frequent changes in their mood and temper tantrums.
Helping you deal with this difficult but normal stage in the development of your child, you must always keep in mind that your son or daughter isn’t trying to be defiant or rebellious on purpose. They are only trying to express their growing independence and don’t have the language skills to easily express their needs. This is possibly also the reason why your child will get frustrated at a frequent base and turns to hitting, biting, and temper tantrums when he doesn’t get what he wants.
By learning more about this normal stage in the development of your child, it can make it easier to get through it and make sure that you aren’t contributing to more battles than are necessary.
Some more tips to help your child during the terrible twos and terrible threes:
- Have a regular routine for their meals, naps, bedtime, and keep trying to stick to it every day
- Limit the choices, like ‘would you like a pear or a banana for your snack’ and not just ‘what do you want for your snack.’ This helps your child feel like he or she is making his or hers own decisions and has power over things, but he or she is not able to choose unacceptable alternatives.
- Set limits about things and don’t be surprised when your child will be trying to test the limits set by you to see what they can get away with
- Don’t give in to tantrums
- Start using time-outs and taking away privileges as discipline techniques.
- Make sure your kid is provided with a safe environment that’s properly childproofed for exploring and playing in. It is not really fair that your child will be getting in trouble for playing with something he isn’t supposed to if you kept it within reach.
Dinosaurs also enter the “terrible twos”
Welcome To This Site
These days you can find a solution for all of your problems on the internet. But there is just too much information, what makes it hard to determinate which sites are made by true experts and which sites are made by scammers.
On this site we want to share with you what we have found about “how to deal with behavior problems of twos and threes”. We know this is a major problem where a lot of parents have to deal with and that it’s hard to put your believe in just another product from the internet. That is why we wanted to help you to find a real true product which can help you to deal with these behavior problems of your toddler, worth your money and what isn’t just another scam.
Does this sound familiar to you:
Your toddler is having another tantrum again and shows no sign of stopping. He or she is making supersonic, ear-shattering, teeth-jarring screams, or is kicking and hitting and holding his breath. You don’t know what to do about it… You can’t make your toddler to listen to you…You just want to run away…
This has to change!
Temper tantrums are common for boys and girls and usually take place between the age of 1 to 3. When your toddler is kicking-and-screaming, tantrums can be extremely frustrating for you. But what you should do, instead of looking at him or her as a catastrophe, is to treat these tantrums as an opportunity for education. These tantrums are a normal part of your toddler’s development and don’t have to be seen as something negative.
Tantrums are frequently the result of a frustration with the world — they can’t get “something” (an object, or you) to do what they want. But these frustrations are an inevitable part of their lives as they learn how everything works so we have to teach them how to deal with this.
After long searching and testing we have found for you a digital book and audio version that isn’t a scam and really helps you with your ‘problem’. The one we would definitely recommend is made by Chris Thompson and is called:
On this site we want to give you some more information about this amazing book and hope that you will be just as enthusiastic about it as we are!